So we all know that as women we’re expected to act as the sexual gate-keepers. Because all we want is a husband and men don’t respect women who have sex on the first date. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? (Ugh, and I’m the cow I suppose? Christ, fucking patriarchy.)
‘The Rules’ is a book that claims to contain ‘time tested secrets for capturing the heart of mister right’. The secret seems to be that all men want from you is sex, so by delaying business-time we ladies can score ourselves a happy ever after.
Firstly the whole idea revolves around the fact that men only want sex. Sure SOME men only want a quick fumble, just like some women! But some men want to woo you and hold your hand and cuddle with you and just generally have an adult relationship. The book treats male sexuality as entirely focussed on the easy lay and relies on the idea of men who stop respecting you at the exact moment of penetration.
In terms of female sexuality, ‘The Rules’ and it’s ilk would like to completely deny its existence. These rules imply you’re alone because you’re too easy. You are a slut, and men don’t like sluts. This is the exact same patriarchal bullshit that society has been shaming women with since the dawn of time. There is nothing wrong with wanting to have sex, women have sexual urges too, and it’s ok to act on them WHENEVER YOU FEEL LIKE IT! If that means waiting for any given length of time or launching straight into the nasty on the first date that’s TOTALLY cool.
Theres a sexual double standard at play which tells us that women who like sex are sluts, while men are players. There’s absolutely no need to be ashamed of your sexuality ladies! And a book that tells you it’s only use is manipulating men into marriage should probably be burned.
VIVA LA SEXUAL FREEDOM!
Viva la Slut 